We Need You

This is a letter to all fathers. We need you to be involved with the raising of our children. Not just the financial support, but the shaping of their lives. As a mom of two sons (one is an adult and one is a toddler) I have already experienced the side effects of having a father that is not as involved as he could be. I watched my oldest son struggle with self esteem issues, transition from a boy to a man without having a constant reminder of what a good man should reflect, struggling to find himself because we live in a world where dysfunction is the norm. Dads, we need you. We need to show that boy what it is to be a man and that daughter how she should be treated by a man.

We need you to speak life into your children daily. Tell them that they can do, be, and achieve whatever they put their minds to. Tell them that they are good enough, creative, smart, handsome, beautiful and strong. Tell them you, their father loves them. When you speak into their lives you help block out the lies they will be told by haters, enemies and society. Your daughters won’t be tricked by the smooth talking, good for nothing man that tries to take advantage of her. Your sons won’t be deceived by the lies their bosses or coaches tell them.

They will hear your voice over the nay sayers. We need you to teach, talk, motivate, inspire cheer, discipline, love and encourage them. We need you to be in their lives guiding them to greatness and lifting them up when they fall. Be there to pray for them and teach them how to pray for themselves. We need you. As a mom I can teach alot, but I can’t teach my sons how to be a man. Dad, we need you.

First blog post

This is my first post! I have wanted to blog for sometime now so I stopped dreaming about it and decided to do it!

What have you been dreaming about? Or have you been dreaming at all? ¬†Just recently, within the last few months, I started dreaming again. Dreaming about living happy, healthy, whole and prosperous. The thing is that I couldn’t keep dreaming about it, I had to finally take action. But before I could take action I began to seek God to get clarity in my purpose. I grew tired of doing things my way, climbing the corporate ladder only to still be unfulfilled. ¬†I have been paid well; however, after the first year or so of a new position I start to get that feeling, you know, the feeling that there has to be more to life than this!

I started looking back at previous jobs trying to see what I liked and disliked about each of them. It seemed that the jobs I liked most were the ones that I was coaching, facilitating workshops, educating, or developing others to achieve their goals or next level in life. To sum it all up, I was serving others. This brought me the greatest joy. Watching others achieve their financial goals after attending my workshops or one-on-one money management coaching sessions, assisting family and friends with problems and finding solutions, helping single mothers find the resources they needed to take better care of their children.

So, of course when I started seeking God for my purpose, he started showing me what was in me all the time. That I was born to educate, inspire, encourage, coach and mentor. The problem is that I was looking for the big paycheck instead of seeking God. There is nothing wrong with a big paycheck, please don’t get me wrong. But having the big paycheck without fulfillment left me feeling null and void. I now have an idea of my purpose, now I had to figure out how to make a living doing it. Which caused me to get stuck. I knew I was supposed to write a book, but I thought I was to write a fictional book. I would dream about the characters, their situations, etc. However, when it came time to write I would draw a blank. So I was led to find a coach. I was not on social media or anything, but I was led by God to get on twitter, then from twitter I found Periscope. Here is where I found a spirit led woman by the name of Asha Tyson. I watched her tell her story of how she overcame adversity being homeless at 17 and retired at 26. This of course caught my attention. A month or so after watching her she announced a coaching program. This was an investment I had to make. This has changed my outlook!

My coaching sessions with her identified the real reason I was stuck. FEAR. I was trying to write a fictional story because I was fearful of telling or writing my own story. My story? All my mistakes, bad decisions, issues and problems? “Yes, because you overcame them all”, Asha said. She then gave me a pre-writing assignment regarding my life. That night I wrote 10 pages! I would draw blanks before, but now the writing flows. Purpose!

Are you still dreaming? Not dreaming at all? Stuck on the “how to”part of operating in your purpose? Not moving forward because of fear? It’s time to do it! Do it in fear, do it with what you already have, do it even though things are not perfect, do it, do it do it! The world is waiting on you. Somebody somewhere is waiting to hear your story or read your blog. Maybe you need a coach or mentor to get you unstuck. Whatever it is, Do It.